Stop Trying So Hard: The Physics of Detachment and Getting What You Want
How excess potential, attachment, and the laws of energy quietly shape your results in life.
Energy only transforms.
Energy is never created or destroyed it only transforms. That same law applies to your life.
What you give is what you get. What you put energy into returns in kind.
If your relationships, body, or finances aren’t where you want them, it’s not because the universe is unfair it’s because the equation isn’t balanced.
You’re getting back exactly what you’re giving, whether you realize it or not.
You get what you give.
If you’re unhappy in your relationship, look at what you’re putting in. Are you giving in a way you want to receive or do you truly understand your partners emotional needs?
If you’re unhappy with your body, check your inputs. Too much food? Not enough movement? The body doesn’t lie — it mirrors your behavior.
If your bank account’s low, maybe you’re not giving enough value to the world. Money is just energy — the return signal for the value you provide.
In every area of life, results are reflections. Energy moves in proportion.
Energy flows where attention goes.
If your mind is restless — anxious, overthinking, spiraling — notice what you’re giving your attention to.
When your body is tense, breath shallow, and thoughts scattered, your mind clings to anything it believes it can control.
But when you center attention on one thing — the breath, the moment, the task — energy reorganizes itself.
Relax your face.
Drop your shoulders.
Breathe slower.
The moment hasn’t changed. Your relationship to it has.
That’s how peace begins — not by adding anything, but by stopping the leak.
Excess potential: When you push too hard, so does life.
In physics, when you push against a wall, it pushes back with equal and opposite force.
In life, the same law applies — especially when you create excess potential.
Excess potential happens when you place too much importance, emotion, or “charge” on something.
You tell yourself:
“I need this goal to happen or I’ll fail.”
“That person is out of my league.”
“That job is everything.”
The more energy you project onto the thing, the more resistance you create.
That’s why the calm, confident person attracts opportunities. They’re not leaking energy through force. They’ve balanced the equation.
Everything in life is neutral until we distort it with excess potential (thoughts).
The trick is to care without clinging.
Detachment: The art of caring just enough.
Detachment isn’t apathy. It’s emotional precision.
You can still care — deeply even — without losing balance.
Eckhart Tolle says, “Give your hands to the work, but not your heart.”
That means: be fully present, but don’t hand over your peace.
If you’re too attached, you suffer. If you’re too detached, you drift.
The goal is the middle: engaged but at ease.
A healthy level of detachment lets you:
Stay flexible while pursuing goals.
Handle setbacks without collapsing.
Enjoy the process instead of forcing the outcome.
When the benefit disappears — peace, growth, joy, or purpose — that’s your cue to back off the gas. Coast until you find a speed you can cruise at with ease.
Work on the right things.
Jim Rohn once said, “If you work hard on your job, you’ll make a living. If you work hard on yourself, you’ll make a fortune.”
Most people grind endlessly at work but neglect the self. That’s why they burn out instead of break through.
Alex Hormozi calls it the “busy triangle”: broke, smart, and busy.
You can only be two:
If you’re broke and smart → get busy.
If you’re smart and busy → you won’t be broke.
If you’re busy and broke → you’re not being smart.
Detachment helps you step back and see which part of the triangle you’re in — and adjust without panic.
Don’t get so serious that you forget to play.
Life responds best when you stop gripping it so tightly.
You’re allowed to take a day off. To go play golf, swim, see a movie, or rest just because you want to. Use can use your free will anytime in this game!
You don’t owe every minute to productivity. You owe it to perspective.
Play resets the system. It’s where your subconscious solves the problems your conscious mind keeps jamming up with “shoulds.”
If you go too far, rebalance.
If you’ve been overly attached — desperate, rigid, controlling — loosen your grip.
If you’ve become too detached — numb, passive, disconnected — re-engage.
Both extremes are resistance in disguise. A way of forcing outcomes.
True peace lives in the balance: pursuing what matters without being ruled by it.
Recap: How to stay balanced while still winning
You get what you give. Life reflects your inputs — emotionally, physically, financially.
Energy can’t be faked. What you radiate returns.
Don’t create excess potential. Care without overloading the moment.
Practice detachment. Be invested, not enslaved.
Play and rest. It’s part of maintaining energetic balance.
Rebalance often. Get back to center when you drift too far.
When you hold this middle ground, life stops fighting you.
Things start flowing again — not because you forced them, but because you stopped resisting. This is the art of allowance.
